What I saw today is one of the most unbelievable and atrocious things I have ever seen in my life. It disgusted me to the core, and showed me a side of Japan even darker than I had seen up until now. It showed me just how far the Abusive Japanese police will go to prove their point.

This morning, I decided to take a jog along the Sumida river. As I approached the Asakusa area, I heard loud voices, like screaming, in the distance. Something had just happened. Not something good. As I got closer, police cars were arriving, and helicopters were already above on scene. As I approached the main bridge in Asakusa, police boats started to fill the water, and then somebody up on the bridge yelled, “OVER THERE”, in Japanese while pointing their finger.
It was at this moment that I saw it.

Im going to pause here and say that the next little bit gets quite tough to read (I know this as it was tough to write).
If you don’t think you can handle it, it might be best to stop reading here.

 

In the water, face down as in so many movies. There was a man floating. But this was no movie. And the sight of this took hold of me and my stomach tightened, my knees began to shake, and my eyes began to water. Little more than back, shoulders, and the back of this mans head could be seen, but it was a sight that I will not forget.

The police did their best to get to this man. Paramedics and emergency crews were nowhere in sight.
The police boat pulled up, and after about a minute of BS they finally managed to get him out of the water.

But it was how they pulled him out that was nothing shy of disgusting. They grabbed the back of his shirt collar and just pulled him by the collar out of the water as if he were a dog. Then, they left him face down on the edge of the boat. No checking for a pulse, to attempt to help in any way.
A human… A fellow country-man… treated like little more than.. I can’t even finish this sentence.

They got him to a dock and as they placed him down, the air they carried was “ok.. were done”. It was after about a minute or two of this that an Indian man standing about 20 meters down from me started screaming in Japanese.

G#%DAMNIT!! HE MIGHT STILL BE ALIVE! CHECK HIM YOU IDIOTS, he yelled.

Everyone around looked shocked, and amazingly, so did the police.
But even more amazing, was the fact that they then checked for a pulse, and started to try CPR.
Why did it take this long for them to do this???? Why did not even one of the 10-20 officers standing there think to take any action?

Unfortunately the man didn’t regain consciousness.

As they brought him up from the river bank, we all started to move on. It was at this moment that I noticed the Indian gentleman was carrying a baby only a few months old.
He nodded his head politely as our eyes met, and we made our way down the street separately.

As we at the intersection, two police walked up beside the man with the baby.
I guess he must have still been upset, because he started telling them that the mans life was on their hands.
It was at this point that things started to get out of hand.

Abusive Japanese Police

Abusive Japanese Police in Asakusa Japan

Note: for the sake of protecting his privacy, I have not included a picture of the man who was speaking to these “officers of the law”

The man in the picture on the right started telling the man go back to his own country.
He repeatedly told the Indian man, “You are not Japanese, so you don’t matter. Go back to your own country”
I hadn’t noticed until this moment, but the (Indian) man had tears running down his face.
He was not aggressive or loud at this point, but he was clearly determined to make these officers understand.

As he persisted with his message, the unbelievable happened. Even though he was standing with a baby in his arms, the Japanese police officer on the left (above) used the flotation device in his arm to very aggressively shove the Indian gentleman. But unfortunately he didn’t just shove the man, the flotation device came in direct contact with the baby, and shoved both of them.

It was at this point that the Indian gentleman went to shove the officer on the left back, but was grabbed by the officer on the right who told him “if you touch either of us, I will arrest you. Then it’s over for you”

The man stopped in his tracks. Defeated by his dirty foe.
I watched in disgust and snapped as many pictures of these two trash bag cops as I could.
For the sake of everyone’s reference, here is a more clear shot of the violent cop:

Abusive Police in Japan

The aggressive and abusive police officer

This all took place near the Hanakawado Koban where these 2 officers seem to work.

This type of thing cannot continue if Japan ever wants to move into the future.
There is so much more I want to add, but I will leave it here for now.

*Closing Note: While I have tried to remain as clear and accurate in this post as possible, I should close by saying that the details of the gentleman with the baby, have been slightly edited in the hopes of protecting his privacy from anyone who may read this. Fully accurate details have been used to file a complaint which will probably never see the light of day.

After enough time reading the news in Japan, you start to recognize a bit of a pattern. Perhaps the words “a bit” serve as somewhat of an understatement. More accurately, it gets to a point where you can semi-accurately guess the news in Japan in any given week.

A close friend told me that they hadn’t turned on a TV or read a newspaper in weeks, and were wondering what was going on. Although I hadn’t touched the Japanese news in a while myself, I was able to provide a surprisingly accurate update of the weeks-gone-by! Point by point, I was able to lay out the news in Japan for that week. Of course I didn’t cover every story, but what was covered was all magically in the news that week!

How? Well, as much as you might be inclined to believe that it is because I am psychic, such is not the case…
[Disclaimer: I am not outright stating that I am not psychic. But rather that it was not the use of psychic ability that enabled me to produce the following results. I leave all thoughts and assumptions on my psychic abilities up to the reader.]
Rather, I was able to guess the news to a certain degree of accuracy because this is Japan, and in Japan, certain things just seem to happen again and again~

And so without further adieu, I give you (about 50% of) my predictions for any given week in the Japanese news…

Somewhere in Japan, a police officer was caught doing something he shouldn’t have been doing.

Broad, yes. Yet surprisingly accurate. If you take a look at this post, or wait for my next post, it’s easy to see a very clear and consistent trend here in Japan; Nearly every single week, the police screw up and the media busts them for it. I don’t know if the police in Japan are actually that bad, or if the media in Japan really just love to make them look incompetent, but either way, there is never a shortage of Japanese police fails in the news.

There was another pointless update glorifying some minuscule “accomplishment” of AKB48 or one of its members.

AKB48… I don’t really need to say much more here. From accomplishments like promoting Christmas cake for 7/11 and releasing ‘music’ videos to being in controversial commercials (ie – “wanna have a baby with me?” and “girls kissing with candy”), AKB48 seem to make their way into the news week after week.
My personal favorite point about this, is the number of people who take the time to read the articles, log in, and post comments saying how much they hate AKB48… Seems like a lot of effort to go through if you ask me…
And if the regular news isn’t enough for you, you can always go out and pick up a copy of the AKB48 newspaper. Yes… They have their own newspaper for some reason.

Tensions between Japan and a neighboring country ran high for some reason.

Big surprise here right? Japan and conflict?! From island disputes, whaling, and trade disputes, to reaping the harvest that has grown from the actions and poor choices of previous generations, Japan finds themselves having troubles with their geographical neighbors on a weekly (sometimes daily) basis. Sometimes on the offensive, and sometimes making excuses, Japan just can’t seem to get enough conflict. Kinda makes one glad that the country only has a National Defense Force and not a formal Military…

A Japanese company that was once in great shape is now going through very hard times.

Sony, Olympus, Sharp, Panasonic, Toyota, Suzuki, and the list goes on…
Japanese companies that were once so strong seem to be struggling in both Japan and around the world. The companies that once brought Japan so much pride and glory, now seem to be the very companies featured in the business sections of the newspapers for their shortcomings rather than their accomplishments.

A Japanese politician apologized, resigned, or was removed from his post (most likely due to an “unfortunate” remark).

Politicians in Japan like to play fast and loose with their opinions, remarks, loyalties and apparently with common sense itself. In a country infamous for a turnover rate in politicians that can only be compared to the turnover rate of a Detroit McDonald’s, it is amazing that they haven’t figured out the age-old trick of learning from the mistakes of your predecessors.  I imagine that most of the prestigious short-lived careers of these attempted politicians were preceded by a lifetime repetition of touching the stove burner and wondering why their hands hurt afterward.

A Japanese car company had to recall a large number of automobiles.

It is amazing the 180 that Japanese automakers have taken in the past couple of years. Japan spent decades climbing to the top of the automotive ladder just to use their position for a proverbial base jump back to the ground. Only time will tell if they packed a parachute. Unfortunately my expectations don’t match my hopes on this one.

 There was some admission by TEPCO or finger pointing by the media of something that TEPCO didn’t do right or in a timely manner.

I might just be getting lazy at this point in the writing process, but I’m pretty sure this one explains itself. I’m just not sure how I feel about it. On one hand I sit thinking “yes… we know TEPCO screwed up… Bad. But we all know that no matter how much TEPCO failure gets brought to light, they will just brush it off and move forward unchanged“.
But the other side of me is glad that the media isn’t letting it go. That they are not letting people forget that TEPCO played a very large hand in the destruction that has occurred. I just worry that for many, it has become little more than background noise. It just goes to show how much the mind-set and culture of this country has changed that those original TEPCO officials continue their day-to-day lives.
Now, I’m going to go ahead and say that there are probably quite a few that I have missed or left out for one reason or another (i.e. Children getting injured or worse due to the failure of their guardians), but in the end it would seem that this serves to be a fairly accurate assessment of the news in Japan in any given week.

For good measure and a little fun, I have decided to include a few online news sources that you can use for news in Japan.

News On Japan – www.newsonjapan.com

Japan Times – www.japantimes.co.jp/news.html

Japan Today – www.japantoday.com

Asahi News – www.asahi.com/english

And when all else fails, apps and Japanese newspapers usually seem to do the trick!

But now that you can guess the news in Japan, I guess you don’t really need them anymore….

Any quick search on a news page will show you that the Japanese police are not the most upstanding citizens. And Kazuo Hayashi, a 58-year-old police chief in Gunma has given us all one more article to read on this topic.

I’ll start by making it clear that I’m not saying that police in other countries are any better than police in Japan, but it does seem that the Japanese police get caught by the media a little more.

According to Japantoday (yea… I know…), the police chief showed up at the scene of a fire drunk. And if that wasn’t enough, he figured he would add some spice to the evening by shouting and verbally abusing some of the locals.
Now for most of us, a drunk police chief verbally abusing locals would seem pretty bad as it is, but for Mr. Hayashi, it just wasn’t enough.
When verbal abuse didn’t meet the sadistic needs of his evening out, he moved straight into physical abuse by slapping a subordinate.

Additionally, the news source mentions that this Gunma police chief has denied driving to the scene…

Does any one else believe this? Really?

You will have to forgive me for not taking the drunken chief at his word, but have you ever been to Gunma?
Gunma doesn’t exactly have the most elaborate public transportation system and isn’t exactly the type of place where he could just walk to the scene… But yea. The drunken violent man says he didn’t drive there… Let’s just take him at his word. (You know that his bosses will!)

And after all of this, he suffers little more than a departmental change and perhaps a little discipline…
And I’m sure the incident will be described at a later date as regrettable (that’s if it’s covered at all).

In the past year there have been countless cases of Japanese police causing trouble and harassing citizens throughout the country.  And these police officers have ranged from fresh recruits to police chiefs alike…

There is so much more that I could say about the Japanese police, and so much more that I eventually will. But for now, I thought it time for a bit of an update, and this J-win story caught my eye~

 

 

In the last week, there have been 3 major chikan cases to hit the news related to upskirt photos and upskirt videos here in Japan. The Ex-IBM Japan president, an Osaka assistant-judge, and a Tokyo Metro employee.
In answer to your question: Yes. Japanese men are perverts. And while I would have loved to include the word “some” in that sentence, the more I look into this issue and reflect on my own experiences, the harder it is to consider including that word.

The really scary part is that a) Upskirt Chikan is a common issue/news story in Japan, and b) The Japanese man in question (a.k.a. the “chikan” or pervert) usually shows little-to-no regret. In fact, unless their company goes under scrutiny for it, they usually act like taking pictures up women’s skirts is as natural as asking for her phone number…

When I sit down to write things like this, it’s really difficult to figure out where to start…
The Japanese upskirt issue is one of great magnitude and so I will humbly offer little more than the basic facts along with my thoughts and experiences.

Let’s start simply with only the cases within the last week.

Ex-IBM Japan President Turned Chikan
Takuya Otoshi, the ex-president of IBM Japan used an iPod as his camera of choice when filming an upskirt video of a Japanese woman on an escalator in Tokyo station. And while Tokyo police, in all their useful glory, have (at this point) refused to confirm any allegations, the man’s statement that he was interested in voyeurism, pretty much speaks for itself.

Osaka Assistant Judge Takes His Pervert Oath
When Toshiki Hanai (who even as an assistant judge is surprisingly only 27-years-young) was arrested for squatting and attempting to get upskirt photos with his cellphone, he told police that he was wondering what kind of underwear the woman was wearing. Examination of his cellphone found that he was a curious little chikan judge who seemed to wonder what MANY women’s underwear looked like!

Perverted Tokyo Metro Employee Wants In On The Fun
This one doesn’t really surprise me. Have you ever met a Tokyo Metro Employee? They often remind me of the seedy looking stock-boys that you might find working through the night at a discount super market.
This particular winner was a 38-year-old electrician who fancied long walks on the beach and upskirt photography in Shibuya crossing. And surprise, surprise…. An investigation quickly uncovered more photos and videos taken at various stations and within various train cars.

And keep in mind, this has all just been in the last week…
Welcome to chikan.
…oops.. Sorry. Misspelled that.
I mean, Welcome to Japan.

The lines are starting to get fuzzy and it’s getting hard to differentiate. In the same way that many Japanese believe that the word 和 “wa” or “Harmony” means Japan, I am beginning to feel that the word “Chikan” means Japan.

The case of the IBM president doesn’t really surprise or concern me all that much. Middle-aged Japanese salary man with more money than common sense looking for a little excitement in his daily life. Seems unfortunately standard. If anything it reminds me of an upskirt chikan case from a while back that actually made me laugh.

Back in September of 2011, a Hosei University student in his early 20′s was arrested for taking an upskirt video of an 18-year-old girl on an escalator. His weapon of choice: An iPod Nano tied to his shoe.
I remember sitting and watching the news the night that this story broke loose. The school-aged chikan had apparently thought it a good idea to simply work the iPod Nano into his shoelaces. When the newscast showed a picture of his shoe with the iPod tied into it, it was so incredibly obvious that I couldn’t help but break into laughter at the half-assed approach of this up-and-coming pervert.

The police report said that when they searched his home computer, they found over 250 videos, of up to 200 different girls.

Wait.
Let’s take a moment to analyze that last statement: they found over 250 videos, of up to 200 different girls.

So do you mean to tell me that they actually watched through more than 250 upskirt videos and attempted to identify how many of these were different girls? Is that really a necessary point of information?! Or did these police simply want to create a seemingly legitimate reason to watch over 250 upskirt chikan videos?
Kinda sounds like a cop taking away weed, and going back to the station to smoke it and test if it is really medical or not…

And if you are doubting for a single second that this is the case, don’t allow yourself to be fooled into a false sense of security. It is not uncommon whatsoever for even the police in Japan to be caught taking upskirt videos. Almost yearly there are stories on the news of this. And if we  do not conservatively assume that the police manage to successfully hide even half of these police chikan cases, the number of stories still too daunting.

In 2011 the National Police Agency reported a 23% rise in Japanese police misconduct leading to disciplinary action. And unfortunately, police misconduct in Japan doesn’t stop at upskirt photography or chikan. Japanese police have been known to start fights on trains while off-duty, or even go as far as rape.
Once again, I wish I could say that all of these were rare cases.

It’s just so incredibly common. And is may be happening around us at any given time.

A year or so ago, I was on the Chiyoda Line in Tokyo and was watching a Japanese man fall asleep on the train bench across from the one on which I was sitting. It was winter at the time and he had his jacket draped over his shoulders like a blanket. And as he fell asleep, he leaned lower and lower to the right. I couldn’t help but watch, as there was no-one beside him and I was sure he was just going to end up laying out flat on the bench.
And if I hadn’t watched him with the enthusiasm and intensity that I did, I might have missed it.

Something was odd. Although he seemed to be nodding off, his face seemed to have an unusual amount of focus in it. And that’s when I noticed that his eyelids were partially open and his eyes were moving. Not 2 seconds after, I noticed a little red light from inside his jacket. He was filming with his cellphone. I looked a few seats away from me and there was a girl in a school uniform who couldn’t have been older than 15.

I was surprised at first, and the surprise quickly turned to anger. And before I knew it, I was furious. I got out of my seat and stood right in front of him, blocking his view and the view of the camera. As the train was nearly empty, this action stood out. He “woke up” right away and I re-positioned myself in-between him and the girl again. This upset him.

He tried to move seats, but I once again, very directly positioned myself between him and the girl. He looked up and yelled at me in Japanese,  “WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU!?!” to which I could only reply “What the hell is wrong with YOU?!?
He started at me shocked and irritated.
I unloaded on him (verbally) and he tried to get off at the next station. All I could do was follow him. And I did so… With volume. When I threatened to drag him to the koban, he finally gave in and said “FINE. I’ll delete the video“, to which I said “Ok. But I am going to stand here and watch you do it.”

He opened up his keitai and went to the videos section. The idiot pervert opens up the file to show me that it is the one he is deleting, and I take my chance. I grab the phone (which was attached to a lanyard around his neck) and scream out to a nearby Tokyo Metro station staff, who in all his glory sauntered over as if he was on his way to the bathroom. The entire time the man beside me was struggling to get back his phone.

I disconnected the phone from the lanyard, handed it to the staff and told him that the first video in it had just been taken by this man on the train. As he opened up the video, his face was that of pure shock and horror. By this time a security guard who had been alerted to the ruckus I had caused, had made his way over and the man was taken to the police. Luckily for me, the idiot Tokyo Metro staff didn’t have the sense to keep me around and he let me go.

The part of this that really made me think was the fact that the train wasn’t even crowded. It was near empty and this amateur upskirt videographer still had the nerve to try and get a shot.
Which begs the question, how common is this really?

I have searched and searched and not been able to find any solid, useable statistics.

But the simple fact that many trains have (time-designated) “Woman Only” cars, many stations and trains are constantly adding more and more cameras, and the fact that there are actual, specially trained under-cover chikan/upskirt video searching officers in many stations around Tokyo, should tell you that this is an alarmingly common issue.

So much that it can cause problems that don’t even exist. Some women end up becoming so incredibly paranoid and sensitive due to the sheer volume and presence of chikan that it is not uncommon for a woman to think that a perverted act has taken place even when it hasn’t. And while it’s easy to say that some of these Japanese women might just enjoy crying wolf, it’s also just as easy to see how the lines of sexual harassment and reality can be blurred when you are constantly surrounded by it.
And unfortunately, from time to time innocent men become the victims of these misunderstandings and some suffer greatly.

I remember being on the Yamanote line and watching two Japanese men in their 40′s facing each other, talking near the door. They seemed like friendly guys, and their conversation was one of quality. They were talking about their children and praising each others’ wives for the hard work they do.

I was enjoying some casual eavesdropping when a woman who had litterally just stepped off the train, turned around and in a move that she could only have learned in a billy blanks tae bo exercise video, swung at one of the men who not seconds before had been laughing while telling a story of something his child had done.

She screamed frantically for some reason accusing him of grabbing her ass. He looked terrified. Both him and his co-worker tried to reason with her and explain that no such event had taken place, but she wouldn’t hear anything of it. she grabbed the mans dress shirt by the button area and started trying to pull him off the train. As she pulled, his shirt ripped. More and more.
The entire time she was screaming for someone to help her. Within seconds, 2 guys stood up, grabbed the man and forced him off the train along with her. The station staff were already nearby on the platform, and his co-worker rushed out of the train with a very concerned look in his eyes. The door closed.

It all happened so incredibly fast. As the train pulled away, I had barely processed the events of the last 10-30 seconds and felt confused, scared, worried, and so many other things…
He hadn’t done anything. I know because I was standing right there. Listening and staring as if I were a Japanese person looking at a foreigner. But even knowing first-hand that he was innocent, after watching this woman’s reaction and the whole situation, I began to feel doubt for him. A completely illogical doubt. But she had been convincing. She genuinely seemed to believe that he had touched her on the train…
As I said, reality starts to blur, and it becomes tough to tell what has actually happened when these occurrences are so common.

A Japanese friend later told me that if this man was convicted of chikan, then he was basically finished. His life would be essentially over. That night, I hoped for this mans safe return to his wife and child.
It scared me to think that this simple family-man on his way home, could potentially have his life ruined by a misunderstanding caused by fear and clouded lines of reality.

This type of situation is something that many Japanese men fear. In my first couple weeks in Tokyo, I was on the train with a Japanese friend. One of my hands was on the handle and the other hand was by my side. He suddenly reached down, grabbed my wrist and held it up.

Both hands up on trains. Imagine a gun is pointed at you. Both hands up or both hands busy

These were the words of wisdom he passed on to me that day. He pointed out all of the other men around us, and to my surprise, almost every man standing, had both hands up in some form. Whether it be handle and book, handle and keitai, or just both hands up on handles and bars, almost every man (especially those standing near women) had 2 hands up.
I learned something valuable that day.

So really, these perverts taking upskirt pictures and videos or feeling chicks up on the train are making things harder for everyone. These chikan are a poison to Japan, and if you read my piece about the 14-year-old pervert, you will be able to see that things are only getting worse.

Why do these people think they can get away with chikan? Because they think nobody is looking. And I hate to say it, but most of the time they are right…

So Japan… It’s time to open your eyes. It’s time to reclaim Japan from the perverts.

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For more reading on the Japanese Chikan situation please check out this document.

 

 

“It is amazing what make up can hide. If you want to know what she really looks like, take her swimming. Japanese girls without make-up are a totally different ball game man.”

Words of wisdom from a Japanese friend many years ago as I showed him a picture of a beautiful Japanese girl I had just started dating.
She was 21 years old, with beautiful hair which was both full and long. Her eyes are what caught my attention the day I met her, and she was always elegantly dressed. She liked high-heels and had her nails done in a different way every time I met her. And in spite of all of this, she looked very natural. She didn’t seem to have make-up caked on, and kept to sensible clothing (aside from the 7-day a week heels).
And this natural look, lured me into a false sense of security.

And so, heed his advice I did not.
I’ve seen girls (white girls, that is) without make-up before and it was never really that bad. So I sat back and thought to myself, “honestly, how bad could it possibly be?

Well, the first red flag came when I saw her without heels or nails… Something was different. Not bad different. But different. She hadn’t gained any weight in the 15 hours since we last met, and yet suddenly, she somehow seemed chubby. But it suited her. She was cute that way and I liked it. I thought no more of it.

I let the red flag go down, and my defenses along with it.

We had been dating for a couple months when my friends advice finally made sense.
We took a bit of a trip together and I woke up one morning to find that she wasn’t beside me. I got up to grab breakfast, and saw the bathroom door half-open with the light on. Naturally I walked over and began to say good morning…
and that’s when I saw it…

For those of you who are thinking that I walked in on her on the toilet, you are both kinda gross and kinda dumb. Did you even read the article up until now? Try and put 2 and 2 together would ya…
For the rest of you… What I saw was much more surprising than what I ever could have expected.
She was drying her face with a towel, and as she brought the towel down I saw a completely different girl standing in front of me. Almost boyish. Tiny eyes, porous and blotchy skin colored a sickly yellow and almost no eyelashes or eyebrows.
For a moment the image of Darth Vader prepping to put on his helmet popped into my mind. My face went blank.

The second she noticed that I was there she freaked. Without even taking a second to look at me she covered her face back up with the towel and slammed the bathroom door, locking it quickly after.

But honestly… I didn’t mind. It was still her… right?

The first half of the day went by without us even speaking to each other. Not a word.
And by evening, it started to become very clear where things were heading.
That night at dinner, she finally spoke. She was furious. She said that me looking at her face without make-up was an invasion of her privacy, and utilized that single point to launch the discussion into an argument that would inevitably end in the demise of our relationship.

I took the break-up pretty harsh. And couldn’t help but notice that the girl that I spoke to that night was very different from the sweet girl I had been dating. We had been through arguments before. What couple hasn’t? But nothing that had ever come up had lead her to act the way she had acted that night. And then it started to become more and more clear… The make-up wasn’t just hiding her face… It was hiding her personality.

And so time went by and I moved on. And years later I found myself in a situation that brought back memories and began to set off red flags. The girl that I was dating this time, had no problem showing her face without make-up, and all-in-all she didn’t look all that different with or without it (with the exception of eye-size… which for many Japanese girls is the primary reason for their make-up). But this particular girl had 2 very distinct personalities…
While wearing make-up she was calm, and gentle. Some might even call her sweet.
But when the make-up came off, so did the gloves…

As I have written and re-written this section several times but can not find the words to explain how this girl acted without make-up on, I will simply summarize by saying that she was no longer, in any way, lady-like or pleasant.
And, we will leave it at that.

And while at first, this was all a major shock, I have slowly grown to be intrigued by the things that Japanese girls can do with their make-up. It is… for the lack of a better description… Kinda like art!

When white girls pile on the make-up and fake eyelashes, and all the extras, they tend to just look like a chick who is wearing way to much make-up. But when a Japanese girl does it, it seems to work. And whether this be that it simply requires some Japanese girls to wear that much make-up in order to look cute, or whether their methods of application are actuallythatskillful, the end result is the same.

What really blew my mind about it, is the fact that Japanese guys all seem to know that girls who wear a lot of make-up are hiding something, and yet so many of them love these chicks…

I know when all that make-up comes off, she will probably look like my father, but it doesn’t mean that I ever need to see her like that“, is the line that I got from a guy in Shibuya who was standing in front of the station trying to nanpa (pick-up) heavily make-up’d girls.

In fact there are even TV programs that show was Japanese girls look like with and without make-up!
And what’s more… There are even iPhone apps loaded with pictures of beautiful girls who’s make-up you can remove with the swipe of your finger!

And with all of this… My mind is spinning and I have kinda lost sight of where I was going with this post… (I’m pretty sure I wanted to write something about Japanese gyaaru in here but just never got around to it).
And so I will stop here for now, and perhaps update again later…

Why to Japanese people answer me in English when I speak to them in Japanese?

A question that many foreign Japanese-speakers find themselves asking at one point or another.

I had been speaking Japanese outside of Japan for about a year when I first set foot in Tokyo. I landed in the country excited to exercise my language skills and headed right to the nearest JR ticket counter to ask for a map and to buy some tickets.

Prepared with my Japanese language skills and a level on confidence which was probably undeserved at the time, I walked up to the counter and made my request in full Japanese. The staff smiled, opened a drawer, and replied to me in what I can only describe as a near-embarrassing attempt at English which came out jumbled and incomprehensible…

I stood, confused.

Why… why when I spoke to her in Japanese, did she answer me in English? And in broken English at that…

I couldn’t understand what she said but didn’t want to make her feel as low as she had just made me feel, and so I put on a smile in return and nodded my head pretending to understand what she had just said to me.

This is a situation that is all-too-familiar for foreigners in Japan.
You say something to a Japanese person in Japanese, and they respond in English.
It’s frustrating.

When I first got to Japan, this bothered me like crazy… It would happen at restaurants, on airplanes, while shopping, and even with friends. And especially in the beginning it felt like a punch in the stomach every single time.
I would always doubt my Japanese skill when it happened. I would wonder if my Japanese was so bad that they felt the need to push the interaction into English just to achieve an acceptable level of communication with me…

But over the years, as my Japanese language skills developed and grew in fluency, elegance, and overall pzazz, I came to realize that it was time to adjust my confidence level. It seemed that my nihongo skill level had little, if nothing, to do with it. The more I improved, the more my confidence grew. And the more my confidence in m Japanese skill grew, the more I began to understand that Some Japanese people just want to speak English.  And the more I understood this point, the less I cared when it happened. In fact, it has worked itself comfortably and naturally into my life to the point where I barely notice anymore.
But that doesn’t mean it goes unnoticed by everyone. Japanese people responding to your nihongo in English can be everything from discouraging to shocking, or for some, even embarrassing or disappointing.

On numerous occasions, I have had to laugh as I hear people say things like “I have had more chances to speak Japanese in my own country then when I visited Japan. Everyone here seems to want to practice their English”
Why do I laugh? Because it’s true.

Over the years, I have had the opportunity to meet more Japanese people in social and business situations than I can even count. And I have found that there are 4 main types of English-speaking Japanese people that you will commonly encounter:

 

Type A – Can’t Speak English, But Want To

This type is pretty much harmless. They are generally friendly and may simply be fascinated with foreigners or English but had little chance in their life to use or try it. At the very worst, they are the type who view gaijin as a brand, and may even go through great efforts to befriend you.
Some people will take their attempts at English as “microaggressions” (aka a mild, unintentional form of racism), but in the end, I think it holds more of a child-like curiosity tone to it. (I once went a little far with this analogy comparing it to a young child seeing a new animal for the first time, and mimicking the animals sound in the hopes of achieving communication. They might just wanna be friends! – this analogy was not well taken by some. lol)

 

Type B – Can Speak English, But Have No Confidence

This type, much like Type A, are relatively harmless. Chances are, unless you actually ask them, or unless someone else says something, you may not even know that they speak English. They come in all shapes and personality types, and usually had a rather specific reason for studying English in the first place (whether it was for a certain goal, or simply a strong personal interest). While still very much aware of the fact that you are a foreigner (and potentially more aware than Type A of what that really means), Type B will usually be happy as long as they can communicate with you.

 

Type C – Can Speak English, But Don’t Really Care

I like this type. They can speak English, but will typically carry the communication with you in whatever language you set as the precedent. More often than not, the language will jump back and forth seamlessly in conversation with them, and there is more often than not, a general feeling of equality. Type C is the truly internationally-minded type and unfortunately they are also the rarest type.

 

Type D – Can Speak English And Want To Show It

This is the type to watch out for. They are the ones who will blatantly ignore your Japanese and respond with English, and they are commonly a little different from the average Japanese person. These people see English as “cool” and therefore want to be seen/heard speaking it as often as possible. Unfortunately, this usually comes from a deep seeded issue with their self-esteem, and therefore it doesn’t stop with English. It is far from uncommon for these people to be disliked by fellow Japanese and foreigners alike for being condescending or generally annoying.

Note: I have purposefully left out 2 types from this list
Type P, which are people like the JR staff above, who may just be doing it for the sake of “professionalism” and making things easier.
and Type O, which are the elderly people who will approach you in any range of situations just to practice their English.
I have left these types out, because 9 times out of 10, the person in types P or O will also overlap into one of the above 4 types.

So when it comes down to it, there is only one type that you really need to be concerned about; Type D. But even though three out of four sounds like pretty good odds, it’s still a little tough to put a population percentage statistic to each type, so it’s still up to you to identify and adjust your social filter.

I was going to add an entire section talking about what do do when a Japanese person responds to your Japanese in English, but instead, I’d really like to hear your thoughts. What do you do in that situation?

 

Closing Thought…
The scary part is that if you really think about it… You could apply almost every point in this to foreigners who speak Japanese….

 

 

I’m sick and tired of being stared at by Japanese people all day, every day, everywhere I go.“, said the Australian man in his late 20′s sitting 2 tables away.

To which his friend replied, “Then go back to Australia.”

This is Japan. And if you are foreign, chances are that people are going to stare at you.
It doesn’t seem to matter that we are living in the 21st century,  and that foreigners, or gaijin are no longer a rarity in Japan. People stare. And it’s probably not going to go away any time soon.

And while I would think it safe to assume that this staring at foreigners phenomenon would be more common in areas where there are less foreigners, in my experience, it has actually been quite the opposite.
While in Tokyo, I am stared at on a regular basis, I find that in the countryside, mountains, small towns, and minor fishing villages, etc.. (I… travel a lot for work) I am more or less treated… well… a little more normally.
People will make passing eye contact, nod, greet, or generally treat me the same as any other visitor. In smaller towns when someone does stare at me, I can usually expect it to be followed with some form of (attempted) conversation. Which all-in-all, if I have the time, is never a bad thing.

And while some of this could be chopped up to good old fashioned small town hospitality, it doesn’t change the fact that from time to time, some foreigners might want to be invisible too.

Some people are bothered by this. In fact, some people are seemingly overly bothered by this… to the point of starting fights or even changing seats/train cars/etc.. just to get away from it.

I was unfortunate enough to witness a North American man in his late 30′s freak out on a Japanese man on a train a few years back, just because the Japanese man was staring.
Now in his defense, the Japanese man had been staring relentlessly for about 25 minutes straight when the gaijin man, who was growing increasingly uncomfortable and irritated throughout the duration of the train ride, finally snapped.
He stood up, walked right up to the Japanese man and started yelling, “WHAT?! …SERIOUSLY?!?! WHAT DO YOU WANT?!?!…..
I wish I had more of a story here for you, but I was somewhat embarrassed to be in the same train car at the time, and decided it might be best to switch cars.

I guess everyone has their own feelings when it comes to being stared at…

For me it has become a part of life in Japan that has seemingly faded into the background like the noisy pachinko parlors or the vending machines that sell neckties and beer. From time to time I will notice, but for the most part I don’t.

When I first came to Japan, being stared at was a point that really stood out to me (especially being stared at on a train… I felt like there was no escape), and whenever I was with Japanese friends, I would always ask the golden question:

Why do Japanese people always stare at gaijin (foreigners)?

And with the number of times I have asked that question, I find it amazing that the only seemingly legitimate answer I ever received is, “Because we can. Japanese people can’t stare at other Japanese people, but for some reason we feel that staring at a foreigner is something we can get away with.”

But I guess when it comes down to it, we have to accept that there’s nothing we can do about being stared at.
Or is there…?

While most people who notice, simply choose to ignore it or pretend that they are sleeping, some people choose to have a little more fun with it.

My old roommate J, used to make a game of it by seeing how long he could hold eye contact with people. (surprisingly, top record sits over two and a half minutes!)
A Swedish girl that works in the same building as me uses it as an opportunity to show off her magic tricks with coins, pencils, etc..
And my friend’s son (9-yrs-old) has made it routine to get into games of peek-a-boo or rock-paper-scissors with people who stare at him! (props to the minor on the creativity here lol)

But I think one of the more well known ideas comes from an artist named Arni Kristjansson.
Arni designed a (very legitimate looking) book cover which has been dubbed The Staring Book.

The Staring Book book-cover makes any book you are reading, look like a fictional book called, “日本人はなぜ外国人を見つめる?“ (Why do Japanese People Stare at Foreigners?) and has built quite a following. The cover has been featured on such sites as CNNGo, and Rocketnews24 and for anyone interested, is download-able in PDF format on Arni’s page!

Everybody has their own way of perceiving and reacting to being stared at.
And whether it drives you to the point of emotional breakdowns on the Tokyo subway system, or doesn’t faze you at all, it’s safe to say that it comes with the territory.

So if you are in Japan and hate being stared at, get a book cover, play some peek-a-boo, do a magic trick or two, or as the Australian guys friend said, go home.

 

“We’re glad he killed himself. We wanted him dead”
These were the words of the classmates who bullied a 13-year old boy to the point of suicide.

Disgust.

That is all I am left with as I turn off the TV and try to stop myself from booking a one-way ticket out of Japan.

And while I will start by saying that it is true that bullying is not specific to Japan, I would like to open by reminding you that this is The Japan Rants and therein I will be focusing on this country and how incredibly FUBAR the bullying/ijime situation is here.

This piece is not going to be pretty. So if you think there is even the slightest chance that you might not want to get in to this topic, I suggest you stop right here.

This post is meant to be more of a forum for comments and thoughts.
Honestly speaking I can’t wrap my head around this topic in the way that I would like to, and I want to hear your thoughts. Under the condition that we stick to the topic of Japan. Bullying in Japan.

I am not going to get deep into explaining the current bullying situation in Japan, as there is already a wealth of information available on this topic. One can easily find countless articles, and just to help those of you who are not entirely aware of the details or depth of this issue, I have posted links to a few here:

Facts And Details – Bullying in Japanese Schools [recommended read - detailed]

Education in Japan – Bullying Behavior in Japanese Schools

SeeTell – Japan’s War on Children: Bullying and Abuse

BBC News – Japans Deadly Bullying Problem

All Look Same? – Why Bullying is so Common in Japan

Reuters – Cyber-bullying in Japan

Video: 7-year-old boy being bullied

Now I’m going to assume that you didn’t actually go through and read all of them (although I chose these 5 for a reason and really do recommend reading them all), but providing that you took the time to read even one, you will have somewhat of a clear understanding as to the degree of the Japanese bullying issue.

I have read through all of them. More than once. and honestly I don’t even know where to start.

Bullying (ijime ) in Japan is so incredibly different than it is in the West and comes in a terrifying variety of shapes and forms. Sometimes it is physical, sometimes mental. But it always crosses the line. And in a country where people try to avoid conflict at all costs, it is rarely dealt with.

Japanese friends have shared stories of bullying that rang from mental warfare, to theft and destruction of personal property, all the way up to Japanese children (and when I say children, I am talking about 15-years-old or younger) sexually abusing classmates or even their classmates mothers.
And while mental warfare may not sound all that terrifying, just try to imagine your classmates forcing you to practice suicide techniques on a daily basis, and having the teachers and adults around you do nothing about it.

Some stories are heartbreaking, and others are nothing short of disgusting and frightening.

In the hopes of keeping this post short and to-the-point, I want to list some of the points that I find terrifying about Japan and ijime:

Suicide
The primary cause of suicide for individuals under 18 (a.k.a. children) in Japan is bullying.
Children as young as 10-years-old or younger have been and are continuing to be pushed to take their own lives.

Schools Deny It
I find it amazing that in a country where teachers will roam the streets at night to make sure kids from their schools are not out too late, that the teachers are the first to say there is no problem. Teachers, principals, and schools claim suicide-after-suicide that bullying was not the cause (no matter how much bullying actually occurred)

Teachers Are Targets Too
You will be hard-pressed to find a teacher in Japan who hasn’t been the victim of some form of bullying attempt. Many bullies in Japan will see the teacher as an obstacle to first be destroyed or stripped of any power/credibility before they take action on their targeted classmate. Some Japanese teachers have been known break down, explode, quit, or even commit suicide under this pressure.

Lack of Action by Parents
While I am sure that there are just as many parents who are making incredible efforts to support and help their bullied children, I can’t help but look at the numbers and wonder what the rest are (or aren’t) doing.
And what is worse, is the parents of the bullies. Why did these people have children if they are not going to take a more active role in their child’s healthy development. Instead, so many parents put the responsibility of their child’s development on the teachers. And we have already covered how great of an idea that is…

More Often Than Not, The Smart Kids Are The Bullies
In many parts of the West, the smart kids are the nerds. They are bullied as they don’t have the confidence or physical strength to protect themselves. But Japan is filled with intelligent children who somehow grow to think that due to their intellectual abilities or parents pay-grades, that their lives are somehow of more value than the lives of their bullied classmates. I cannot even begin to imagine what brings an elementary school child to try and convince a classmate to take their own life…

It’s Not Getting Better, It’s Getting Worse
Almost every year for the last decade, the number of reported bullying cases has increased. The most heartbreaking part of this is that we have barely scratched the surface. The majority of bullying cases in Japan tend to go unreported. And with the problem becoming deeper, and Japanese children becoming less and less forward, an increase in these numbers would seem to imply an overall increase in bullying cases in Japan.

The Problems That Follow
Being bullied can lead to countless problems. While some children may grow to become detached and live a life without connection or trust of anyone around them, others may lash out. in 1996 there was a boy who went as far as to cut off the head of one of this classmates, leaving the head on the school gate with a note in the mouth. The note read “this is the beginning of a game“.

There is so much to say and so much that has been said.
I wrote this piece because I needed to get it out. And now, I want to hear what you think. So please don’t hesitate share your thoughts, opinions, stories, etc.

J made his living off of Japanese women. And quite a living it was.

In case the title didn’t tip you off, this piece is an addition to The Hottest Brand In Japan.
If you haven’t read it, I would suggest starting there~

The day I met my old roommate J for the first time, these words rang in my mind,

Japanese people love something exotic. Have you seen all those strange flavors of Pepsi in the convenience stores? We live on an island. An island filled with Japanese people, ruled by Japanese culture, and share a similar Japanese way of thinking. So what could be more exotic to a Japanese person than someone/something not Japanese? Even now [in 2010], most Japanese people cannot speak English, and so even the thought of interacting with a foreigner is unfathomable to some people. Which means when a Japanese person looks at another Japanese person who is hanging out with a foreigner, they see someone doing the unimaginable. It’s like watching someone do magic!! And everyone loves magic tricks right? So, we love to be seen with foreigners. For some it is a novelty, and for some it becomes a lifestyle, but it is what it is and it’s probably not going to change anytime soon, so it’s better to just make the best of it.

“Make the best of it….”

That is exactly what J did.

J came to Tokyo from New Zealand around 2006 and noticed within hours of setting foot in Tokyo how much of a brand foreigners are in Japan. J had started out as an English teacher which helped him earn decent money, but he wasn’t really enjoying it. Luckily for J, it was something he wouldn’t have to endure for long.
Within 2 months, J realized that he could cash-in the gaijin brand, and started making some adjustments.

“It started out with one of my private English students” J started to tell me.
“She was a Japanese woman, 39, single, and living with her parents. She seemed to have a lot of free time and money…
At the start she was paying me 5,000 yen (about $50-70) an hour for our lessons, and we would meet about twice a week for 2 hours at a time. But gradually things changed. The location changed from a cafe, to a bar, and then finally restaurants, with her paying for everything. And just as gradually, we stopped working on English… Before I knew it we were speaking only Japanese. And she was still paying. On top of all of this, she started asking to see me more often, and for longer durations. Before I knew it she was buying me clothing and even having me accompany her to events”

J quit his job as a formal English Teacher and started trying to build more of a base of similar clients. He said that he started with online sites introducing him to private students, and he would try to convert the students into clients.

“Probably only 1 in every 10 or 12 students became a client. And most who didn’t, realized what I was trying to do and would either get upset or stop contacting me completely. Some even accused me of being a himo (a weak man who lives off the money of women and pays for nothing himself). And as right as they were, the ones who stuck around made it all worthwhile”

Within 5 months of coming to Japan, J had a substantial client base and was bringing in a shocking amount of money on a monthly basis. He was well fed, well dressed, and even had one client offering to move him into an apartment near her family’s house and pay the rent for him.

“Most of these Japanese women just wanted to be seen with me.” J said as we talked about his clients one night.
“They take me out to crowded areas and packed restaurants, dress me up in clothes that they think are ideal, and keep me latched onto their side as if I was an expensive handbag.”

And although for some, this may sound like a wonderful way to live, J was equally vocal about the downsides.

“Outside of any moral talk, there are 2 major issues that I constantly have to face.”
These are the words that J placed in my hears in the first of our 11,083 discussions about the problematic side of his himo lifestyle.
“Scheduling and Sex. Most of these women want to meet on Fridays or Saturdays. But my biggest clients usually want to meet on these days and typically can’t commit until the last minute. So I am constantly pressed for excuses as to why I can’t meet people on these days, and then if none of my big clients take the weekend bait, I am either screwed for one of my biggest money-making nights of the week, or stuck apologizing to one of my other clients as I crawl back to them.”

I honestly can’t count the number of times I had to hear him complain about scheduling. He always seemed to work out a new system for scheduling, and something always happened causing it to fall through. And then, there were the sex talks…

“And sex… You just know that at one point or another, she is going to want sex. And the sex… oh the sex is a double edged sword my friend. A real balancing act. Simply put, there is a trend. The longer I manage to hold out sex, the more gifts I get, and the more time and money they put into me in hopes of it. But if I hold out too long, they eventually give up all hope and stop wanting to see me. And once they have finally gotten the sex, things get… well… awkward. They start forgetting to pay, and I conveniently forget to mention anything about it. I honestly just don’t want their money afterwords. And so they either gradually fade away and we lose contact, or they suddenly think that we are in a relationship, and well… that never ends well. So, sex… costs me clients.”

J hated losing clients. And when I say that he hated it, I am wildly understating the point. J would go into a funk for days after losing a client, and this funk more often than not, caused him to lose one or two more additional clients.
He always said that it was the loss of the client that bothered him, but I’d be willing to put good money on the fact that he was struggling to convince himself that he was not engaging in, well…. prostitution.

“I’m not taking money from these Japanese women for sex, so I am not prostituting”
That was his logic. And no matter what anyone said, he always defended himself with that point.

Eventually it got to a point where he didn’t even need to convert students. Women found J.
He came home late one Tuesday night full of energy and alcohol.

“So I was sitting in the park reading when this Japanese woman into her 40′s comes up and starts asking me all the typical gaijin questions. Her English was shit, but before long we were talking in Japanese and out of nowhere she smiles and tells me that she wants to take me out for dinner. So after 10 more minutes of blah blah blah, we walk out of the park and head for a restaurant. Not only did she pay for dinner and 2 bottles of wine, but as I went to get on the train she slipped me 10,000 yen (about $100)! Considering the time I spent with her, it’s lower than what I usually take in, but shit man… she came up to me!”

And so it began. This particular Japanese woman was the first of many who would somehow follow in her path in the months (and years?) to come…

In our late night talks, J always shared what he called the Incredibly Shallow Quotes of the Week with me.
I was always dumbfounded by the stuff these women would say to him.
Some of the weekly winners include:

You are the best accessory I have ever put money into!

I want the b#$% next-door to see me with a foreigner.

Having a white guy beside me helps show people just how smooth and white my skin really is!

You should bring some of your white friends so it looks like I know a lot of foreigners!

And my personal favorite:
Gucci on my left, gaijin on my right. I’m hot today!

J would always talk about how you can’t change the culture or the habits of an entire country, but you can capitalize on it and turn it into something good, or at least something profitable.
Despite all of J’s money and (success?) with his lifestyle, he was surprisingly jaded and negative when it came to Japanese people. He even got a custom shirt made with the words “The deepest part of a Japanese person is their wallet” printed on it.
I guess money doesn’t always buy happiness (cliche enough for ya?).

I always enjoyed the irony of a guy who took money from women in exchange for spending time with them, talking about how shallow and pretentious people can be. There was something poetic about the whole situation.

After about a year of living with J, I moved out. But that wasn’t before hearing some of the most amazing stories that I have ever had the opportunity to hear in my entire life~

J and I don’t talk anymore, but I think back to him from time to time.

Gotta wonder what J is doing right about now…

Some people would call Japan and it’s people pretentious.

Take a walk through the streets of Tokyo’s Ginza district on any Sunday of the month, and you will have a fair idea of why they might think this way. And while there is much to be said on this statement alone, I will leave that for another post.

It is a well known fact that Japanese people love brand-names. A Japanese girl I met back in my university days owned a wallet that cost her over 150,000 yen (roughly $1,500 -$ 1750) and when I asked her how she got it, she told me that she worked an entire summer just for the sake of purchasing this single wallet…

And this love for brands doesn’t just come in the form of wallets, bags, and clothes… It reaches its way into everything from food and drinks, to schools, and even… people…

My name is X and I am a brand-name foreigner.

That’s right. Brand Name.
No, it’s not that I own many brands… in fact, I have never really been a fan of them. But rather, in this strange country known as “Japan”, I am a brand. And a seemingly fancy one at that!

I was inspired to pull this piece together after remembering a day many years ago when I was walking hand-in-hand with a Japanese girl in a countryside town near Kyushu. We walked past a group of girls who with eyes open wide, spit out a line that left me speechless:

“いいな~あたしも外人欲しい~!オシャレ!” (Aww~ I want a foreigner too! So fashionable!)

Me = Floored.

Now it is no secret that Japanese think it’s cool to speak English.
And it is no secret that Japanese think it’s cool to have foreign friends.
But it comes to a point where the line needs to be drawn.

If you read my post about finding your own in Japan, you will know how strongly I feel about re-calibrating our social filters in order to avoid unnecessary stresses. In my first few years in Japan, I met a great number of people. And while some turned out to be true friends, others seemed to have ulterior motives.

Years ago, I was (or at least thought I was) good friends with a Japanese man that we will call ‘Tak‘.
Tak was a pretty average Japanese guy aside from the fact that he spent his university days overseas in an English-speaking country. This is where we met.
When I met Tak, he went through truly great lengths to get to know me, and work his way into my social circle.
We spent several years together, studying, drinking, and generally just hanging out. Tak was even kind enough to show me around Tokyo and introduce me to a staggering number of his friends the first time I visited.
But when I moved to Tokyo, the nuance of our friendship seemed to shift.

When I arrived back in Japan, Tak insisted on getting together with me in the first week, and I happily obliged. He said that he wanted more than anything to introduce me to his new girlfriend, and as a long time friend, I looked forward to meeting her. But when he introduced me with the line, “This is X. He is one of my foreign friends!!”, to which she responded with “aww~ I wish I had foreign friends”, it set off a little light in my head and reminded me of a warning I once received from perhaps one of the most cynical Japanese friends I ever made. Her words rang in my ear,

You really shouldn’t trust Japanese people who try too hard to be your friend. To some Japanese people, foreigners are just like brands; Being seen with one is good for your image.

But after our dinner together, I felt re-assured that he was still the same great guy, and he just wanted to introduce me to his girl. That is, until the next time he invited me out…

We got together for dinner with one of his co-workers for dinner a couple weeks later. It was at this dinner, that I was introduced as one of his many ‘Gaijin’ friends. After which he proceeded to nearly ignore his co-worker and speak to me in English the entire night. The co-worker could not understand English.
When the co-worker finally commented on his own lack of English skill, without skipping a beat, Tak spit out the words, “X will teach you English! In fact, he’ll teach you for free!”

WHAT?! oh no no no…. I am not an English teacher.
… but that as well, is for another post…

Long story short, Tak and I exchanged  words. But in the end, he tried to pull the exact same routine 2 more times.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me three times, and you’re a dick.

Tak was a lesson learned. But in the end he only serves as an example of a single area of this issue…

One of the Japanese guys who works in my office has a girlfriend who is from Poland. He seems to genuinely care for her and always treats her with respect. But every single time he meets a new Japanese person in a social setting, like clockwork, he manages to work the line “my girlfriend is a foreigner” into the conversation.
It’s actually quite impressive.

Add to this, the number of times I have had a Japanese girlfriend use the words “Let’s go out somewhere today! I want to show you off!”, and you have somewhat of an epidemic….

Back in 2010 my best friend’s (Japanese) girlfriend pretty much summed it up:

Japanese people love something exotic. Have you seen all those strange flavors of Pepsi in the convenience stores? We live on an island. An island filled with Japanese people, ruled by Japanese culture, and share a similar Japanese way of thinking. So what could be more exotic to a Japanese person than someone/something not Japanese? Even now [in 2010], most Japanese people cannot speak English, and so even the thought of interacting with a foreigner is unfathomable to some people. Which means when a Japanese person looks at another Japanese person who is hanging out with a foreigner, they see someone doing the unimaginable. It’s like watching someone do magic!! And everyone loves magic tricks right? So, we love to be seen with foreigners. For some it is a novelty, and for some it becomes a lifestyle, but it is what it is and it’s probably not going to change anytime soon, so it’s better to just make the best of it.

And that is exactly what some people do…
I once lived with a guy from NZ who made his living off of capitalizing on this very point!

And honestly speaking, if this is the biggest of your problems while in Japan, I think it’s safe to say that you’re doing pretty good for yourself…

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